why do nice girls like bad boys

It s more than just opposites attract If you have been in the world for awhile or really just paying attention to those dating around you, you have likely noticed a universal phenomenon в "bad boys" and "good girls" seem to naturally attract each other. This kind of relationship may well be the most self destructive type there can be for any number of different reasons. A common misperception is that the bad boy в a guy with an obvious wild side в is somehow manipulating the "good girl" and creating a fictional (therefore, attractive) dating relationship. In reality, in the vast majority of cases, the girl actively seeks out her "bad boy" counterpart. Unless she stops to think about WHY she chases after this kind of guy, often she may be unaware of this need to be in a relationship with someone with a different personality than herself.


Here are 4 major reasons why a so called "good girl" may want to jump into a relationship with a "bad boy": 1. She wants to fix him
Many women come from a family where their father was unavailable to them emotionally. This could be from a that kept the young girl and her father apart or because a father who was present physically was not really there emotionally for the child. In this situation the women attempts to recreate the same distant relationship in her own life in an attempt to "fix" the emotional distance this time around. 2. She wants someone familiar Everyone is attracted to personality types that are familiar, even if they are not positive types. This means women who have a father who was a "bad boy" and perhaps a disaster as a is going to be attracted to the exact same emotional traits and characteristics in their own partners. 3.


She wants something TOTALLY new For some women choosing a guy who is a complete opposite and offers a change of pace, new adventure and even a bit of controlled risk is a big attractor. However, women often fail to understand that the risk taking isn't something that is carefully thought out and, with time, the risk will increase and the adventure will become more and more stressful and destructive. 4. She wants to SAVE him The last issue that drives many "good girls" to enter into with guys who are on the wild side is the drive to rescue or to salvage what she may see as a troubled soul. In reality changing a personality is impossible unless the other person recognizes the issue and genuinely wants to make a change to keep the relationship healthy. Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1.


Sherry is the author of "The Law of Sobriety" which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your free E books at Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. [fimage] We ve all been through it before. the girl of our dreams going for the asshole douchebag guy that hurts her feelings. The guy that makes crude jokes and moments later kiss closes. The person where a mere 30 minutes ago the girl said she can t stand him and all of a sudden they re playfully flirting striking up conversation. Most guys can t wrap their minds around why the girl doesn t like you! I mean, you open the door for her, you compliment her every day, you put your sleep aside to stay up with her, she tells you I wish other guys are like you so why doesn t she go for you instead of the other guy?


Think of a time where you did the nice things listen above for girls. Did you end up just a friend, or did you end up more? If you ended up more, Lucky you! Message me and tell me how you did it because I surely haven t figured it out. For the rest of you, keep reading. Take time to look at the douche bag that the girl looks for. What does he have that you don t? Tall posture? Good conversation? Does he smile and agree with everything the girl says, or does he keep a mysterious straight face and challenge the girl? In a nut shell, girls don t like YOU because your being too nice. Your being a door mat for her to walk all over. You kiss her ass to get her attention and she s used to it. She has you on a leash and thats where she wants you. There s a difference between being nice and being attractive.


Telling a girl all the time she looks good isn t attractive. Being there 24/7 for a girl may be nice, but it isn t all that attractive. If you like a girl, being nice isn t the way to get to her heart. Hiding behind feelings of attraction with nice compliments and acts of kindness wont get you to the bed room or on that first date you ve been looking for. Challenging her will get you there. Walking on the border of sweet but arrogant will get you there. Physically touching her and telling her how you feel will get you there. To get a deeper understanding of what I m talking about look up topics on How to Avoid the Friendzone, Why Girls like Bad Boys and Why Girls don t Like Nice Guys It s 11:00 PM right now and I m studying for my mid terms, my future posts will be in thorough detail. Questions? Ask away!