why does my cat like to sit on me

Listen to the audio version of this article If you talk to people who dont like cats or who arent familiar with them, theyll probably be quick to tell you cats dont show affection. They may praise the way
show affection but refer to cats as snobby or aloof. I think a big part of the problem is people are trying to compare dog behavior to cat behavior. It may seem ridiculously obvious to you, but there are so many people out there who still need to be told that cats arent dogs. One species isnt better than the other theyre just different. So it makes sense they would show affection differently as well. Every cat is an individual so there are many ways your particular cat may display affection, but here are just some of the common ways they show their love: This is the name for the displayed when a cat seems to literally butt his head against you. He may come up onto your lap and his head against your chin, nose or forehead. Cats have glands on their face and its a very common social behavior for one cat to bunt the head of another familiar feline buddy. This isnt just a scent exchange behavior but also an affectionate display. Cats also have glands along their cheeks and they may rub against people, another cat friend or even an object. The pheromones (scent chemicals) located along the cheek and on the cat s head are associated with friendliness, affection and familiarity. Cats facially rub on people or objects when they feel comfortable or familiar. Also known as the tread, this behavior consists of the cat flexing and relaxing his front paws against a soft object. It originated when the cat was a kitten and used the milk treading behavior to stimulate the release of milk from the mothers teat during nursing. Many adult cats maintain that behavior when theyre on a soft surface or feeling very content. Purring is complex because it is something cats do when theyre happy, content and relaxed but they also do it when theyre scared, sick or injured. It has been theorized that purring is something cats do when they are very content or as a self-soothing mechanism in a tense environment, as well as an attempt to soothe potential attackers. Purring is also believed to have healing qualities as the frequency of the purr may help the acceleration of bone mending. If your cat is curled up in your lap and youre stroking him as he purrs, theres an excellent chance hes content and is letting you know by the sound of that beautiful, velvety motor. Cats who have a good relationship may engage in mutual grooming. Its a way they show affection to each other and it also helps create a communal scent. In an environment, this is important since scent plays such a huge role in recognition. Grooming is also a -reliever and displacement behavior so allogrooming may help keep each other calm. When your cat starts grooming you, its often his way of showing affection and mixing his scent with yours. This common affectionate display is one way a cat may convey that he is relaxed and comfortable with you. Many cat parents also return the favor by doing a slow back at the cat. When a cat takes a stretched out position for resting, it shows he feels comfortable with you. When a cat is uncertain, he tends to tuck his limbs under his body and tightly wraps his tail around himself when resting. For a cat to leave his limbs and tail totally exposed means he feels very secure near you. If the cat is not in a confrontation, he may also stretch out so much that hes on his back with his tummy exposed. This is the ultimate in trust and relaxation because he is exposing a very vulnerable body part. Dont confuse this posture with a cat who is exposing his tummy during a battle. In that particular situation, its a defensive position displayed to warn an opponent that should the battle continue, all weapons (teeth and claws) will be used. So when interpreting body postures, you always have to take the immediate into. A cats can tell so much about what the cat is feeling. A tail held high with a little hook at the end usually means your cat is happy and confident. Many cats will also give the tail tip a little flick as a greeting when they see you. Your cat may sit on your lap, sit next to you, lay on top of you when youre in bed, or he may just lean his back against your arm as you work on the computer. Just the fact that he wants to be in close physical contact with you is quite the compliment. Cats can carry on all kinds of conversations and there s no such thing as a simple, but many cats issue a special mew or a little when their cat parents enter the room.


Want More Information? For more specifics on how cat communicate and how to raise a happy, well-adjusted cat, refer to any of books, including. You love your cat very much but there are probably a few that leave you scratching your head. These are the behaviors that dont seem to make any sense. Even though you may not be able to figure out why your cat displays some odd behaviors doesnt mean they arent functional or serve a very logical purpose. Here are seven things that make sense to your cat but not necessarily to you: 1. The Jekyll and Hyde The set-up for this behavior: your cat jumps into your lap and curls up. He may even rub up against you as if hes asking to be stroked. You start petting him, he purrs with delight and then after a few minutes he hauls off and swats you. What gives? Has your cat turned into a Jekyll and Hyde? Although this sudden change in attitude seems to come out of nowhere, its a relatively common behavior in some cats who reach their tolerance threshold when it comes to being petted. The behavior, known as, happens when a cat gets too stimulated from the constant petting or his body language signals have gone unnoticed. He feels the only way to get you to stop is for him to scratch or bite. To avoid this behavior in the future, pay attention to signals your cat is giving off that indicate he may be reaching his limit. Typical signs include skin twitching, tail lashing, cessation of purring, shifting body position, ears pointing backward,. 2. The Nibble and Puke This happens to some cats who are allowed. Many cats enjoy eating and will sit in the grass, doing their best sheep impersonation. After a few minutes of munching the greenery, you hear that familiar sound of a cat about to vomit. Many even grow some kitty greens for their indoor cats munching pleasure and in most cases, it results in having to do a little post-puke clean up afterward. So just why do cats like to eat something that almost always causes them to puke? There are several theories among experts but no one really knows for sure. One theory is that a cat uses the grass as a way to address an upset stomach. Some cats may also munch on grass to help them vomit up that arent passing through the stomach. 3. The Paw Dip Why does your cat dip his paw into the bowl and then lick the water off instead of just drinking the normal way? It doesnt seem to make sense to humans but its a very practical behavior from a cats point of view. In some cases, the cat chooses the paw method if the water bowl is too deep or too narrow. Cats have long whiskers and they dont like getting them squished. Dipping the paw makes it more comfortable. A cat in a multiple cat household may resort to paw dipping as a matter of safety if theres tension in the home. He may not feel comfortable enough to lower his head into the bowl which will obstruct his view. If he needs to keep an eye on any opponents, then dipping his paw is a better method. Finally, if you dont keep the water level consistent, your cat may develop the habit of paw dipping if he has trouble determining where the water line is. 4. The Rear View For many cat parents, this seems to be a very insulting behavior. The cat jumps up on your lap to sit but then faces away from you. He may even curl up next to you with his backside facing you. It may seem wherever kitty decides to sit, whether its on the coffee table in front of you or on your desk as you check your email, you always get the backside view. Theres a simple reason for this. Hes not being insulting, hes actually displaying immense trust. Since a cat is an animal that is both predator and prey, he wants to position himself in the safest place. If he turns his back on you as he settles down, hes showing he trusts you and maybe even that hes going to watch the environment for both of you. Additionally, since a cat is a predator, it makes sense to keep a keen eye on his surroundings in case a wayward mouse happens to scurry across the floor. 5. The Crazy Cat Dance Your cat suddenly, and without any obvious reason, decides to bolt through the house as if chasing some imaginary mouse. He dances around, he pounces, he may even take a flying leap onto his cat tree. You look all around but cant find evidence of any mouse, spider or even a dust bunny. What gets into some cats where they get the cat crazies and almost slam into the walls? Chances are, your cat is either shadow or light-chasing or he has simply had such a build-up of energy and needs to get it out. Cats are hunters and theyre built for movement.


If your cat has been sleeping too much and hasnt been offered adequate to work off some of that energy, he may just take it upon himself to chase some dancing light. Keep in mind as well that cats have finely-tuned senses so your kitty may hear, smell or see something that goes totally undetected by you. 6. The Paper Weight No matter how many toys you leave out for your cat or how interesting the environment may be, he will most likely choose to sit on the one piece of paper youre trying to read. If theres a piece of paper on the floor, your cat may opt to plant himself right on top of it instead of all the other more comfortable spots in the room. Theres a cozy cat bed sitting nearby but your cat ignores that in favor of the thin white sheet of paper. It doesnt make sense, right? It does to your cat. When it comes to sitting on papers or magazines youre reading, your smart cat knows exactly where your focus is and if he wants, the obvious place to be is right where your eyes are directed the paper. As for a piece of paper on the floor or desk no one is paying attention to, it may have to do with the cats natural desire to be on something elevated. If he wants to be on floor level or on a desk but also wants to be just a bit elevated, he may feel the paper, because its different from the rest of the surface, gives him a little lift. 7. The Cover Up You put a dish of down for your cat and he takes a few nibbles and then paws at the floor in front of the dish in the same way he does when covering his waste in the litter box. Is your cat saying the food stinks? Is this the feline equivalent to a restaurant patron sending food back to the kitchen? Is your cat comparing his meal to a pile of cat poo? Actually, its a normal behavior and is based on a cats survival instinct as both a predator and prey animal. If your cat doesnt finish his meal, his behavior of pawing at the floor is an attempt to cover the food so as not to attract any predators. It also prevents potential prey from being alerted to the fact that a predator is in the vicinity. Even indoor cats who never go outside to hunt retain those survival instincts. Need More Information? For more specifics on cat behavior, refer to any of Pams books. Due to Pams scheduling demands, were sorry but she is unable to respond to questions or remarks posted in the comment section. If you have a question about cat behavior, you can find many answers in the articles Pam writes for the website as well as in her best-selling books. 1. Gnawing On Your Appendages There you are, just watching TV together. You reach over to stroke your adorable kitty, who s snoozing on the next cushion. The next thing you know, your hand is caught in a vice grip of tiny cat teeth. What happened? Nibbling or love biting is just your cat s way of saying, hey thanks for those awesome rubs! I like you too. Love bites are often the natural progression for a cat who likes to lick. 2. Licking Your Skin Off Sometimes my cat will catch me watching as she grooms herself. She gets this look like, Oh you want some of this? and starts in on my arm (or leg or face) with that sandpaper tongue like she s trying to remove my entire epidermis. This is not an attack (which is what my skin thinks) but a display of great affection. Cats only engage in mutual grooming with felines they adore. Grooming their favorite human spreads familiar scent and helps mark them as an important part of the family group. 3. Screaming At You A meow or two is cute, but on an endless loop, these cat vocalizations can approach crying-baby levels of annoying. It may be hard to believe, but they re not trying to drive you crazy. Contrary to popular belief, meowing, chirping, and trilling is not how cats communicate with each other. These vocalizations are used as a way to communicate with humans only! Do you talk to people you hate? Me either. So next time your cat meows at you, feel special (and then fetch that food, human)! 4. Stomping On Your Face (or Boobs, or Balls. ) You ve never lived until you ve been woken up by a cat slowly punching you with its tiny fists. As painful as they might be when aimed at the right body part, these feline stomps are actually a behavior called kneading that baby cats use to nurse. Adult cats only continue the behavior when they re feeling most relaxed, content and loved. 5. Staring At You Like A Child Of The Corn Ever get the creepy feeling that you re being watched? You glance around the room and spot your cat, eyes wide open like its trying to remove your soul.


Does he look away? Oh no. He just blinks once, very slowly, and goes back to staring. As unsettling as this thousand-yard stare might be, it s actually a rare privilege. Felines only make eye contact with people they know and trust. When eye contact is coupled with slow blinking, it s considered to be a kitty kiss! Blink back to return the love. 6. Slamming Their Head Into Your Head My cat loves to get up in my face when I m trying to work, repeatedly slamming her forehead into my nose, chin, whatever. Turns out she isn t doing a Zinedine Zidane impression. Head bonking (actually called bunting ) is a cat s way of marking something that they love and trust, and should be considered a huge compliment. 7. Breaking and Entering I want some privacy is not a term your cat understands, and that s not just because they don t speak Human. Blinded by love, many cats can t stand the thought of sleeping away from their owners. And like this cat, they ll find a way to get in--no thumbs be damned. 8. Butt-Showing Cats LOVE to back that ass up. right into your face while you re trying to eat dinner. In cat terms however, this is a show of trust and affection. Would you show your butthole to someone you didn t trust? I didn t think so. 9. Molesting Your Computer It never fails: You re in the middle of a very important email when suddenly Miss Kitty leaps on your desk and takes a Sunday afternoon stroll down the middle of the keyboard. Once there, she decides your computer is the perfect spot for a nap, and proceeds to get comfy. As frustrating as this is, it s actually not meant to be annoying. Cats love to be the center of attention, and computers just happen to be warm with lots of whirring and blinking lights. Sitting there is just a cat s way of saying Hey look at me! I m important too! Oooh this feels nice. zzzzz. 10. Interrupting Bathroom Time The bathroom is the one place where you can be truly alone. Unless you re a cat owner. Then you re guaranteed to see frantic paws under the door, searching for you (if they don t just let themselves in). This desperate behavior is actually a completely natural sign of love. First, a closed door is a challenge and an affront to a curious cat which is one reason why you ll see furry paws reaching under the door or cats racing to join their people in the bathroom, explains PawNation. More importantly, the bathroom gives cats a captive audience as people glued to the facilities aren t able to move away. 11. Shredding Your Beloved Furniture Few things are more sinister than a cat looking you straight in the eye as it sinks his paws deep into the sofa. Scratching is a natural, healthy cat behavior, but humans fail realize it comes from a place of LOVE (silly us). Just as with the spraying, cat scratching leaves both scented and visual marks of ownership, explains About. com Pay attention to where your cat scratches the most. The areas most important to kitty often are related to those places associated with the owner, like a favorite chair where you sit. 12. Using Its Body As Leg Shackles You come home, tired after a long day, and before you can take your shoes off, your cat starts going crazy on your leg. Rubbing and twirling, you feel like a prisoner (and slightly dirty) as Fluffy uses her entire body to make out make-out with your shins. In actuality, rubbing against another creature is a cat s main way of showing affection, and an important bonding ritual. 13. Bringing You Dead Things Stepping on a dead mouse might not be the ideal way to start your weekend, but it ll sure wake you up! No, your cat isn t trying to give you nightmares. It s actually a gift! Even domesticated cats are fierce predators by nature. Sharing the spoils of the hunt with you is a sign of adoration and should be praised (and then quickly tossed in the trash can). 14. Trying To Trip You All you re trying to do is get down the hallway, but there s your annoying little cat, twisting and flipping in the middle of the floor like a spastic gymnast. Although it may feel like a plot to send you face first into the carpet, this is actually a huge vote of confidence: cats only show their belly to people they love. 15. Passing Out On Your Lap (Or Face, Or Back. ) All you want to do is get up and pee, but you re pinned to the couch by a 10-pound cat who s dead asleep. If your cat always wants to curl up on or next to you, take it as a compliment. Your cat is most vulnerable when he s sleeping, so where he chooses to snooze must feel safe and secure to him, explains Mercola. com If one of his favorite nap spots happens to be your lap, consider yourself well-loved by your kitty.

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