why my husband hates me so much
My husband and I have been together for 13 years. We have had some hard times along the way but he was always there for me and there to comfort me. We started our own business about 3 years ago and I quit my job at a very good Physicians office so that I could help make our business succeed and to be able to be flexible with my hours since we have 4 kids. Our business has done very well over the past 3 years. We ran it out of our home for 2 years and then found a building that we could store everything in on a very busy highway. We were very excited that our business was starting to take off. We hired one of his friends in July 2011 who used to be on drugs really bad but after talking with my husband, my husband stated that he had changed and was no longer doing those things. I believed him and we hired this person who said over and over again that he respected the business that we worked so hard on for the last 3 years of our life. My husband would then start spending all of his time at our new building with this friend of his. He would never come home and then my kids finally stopped asking if their daddy was coming home. We then found out near Christmas of 2011 that he had been doing Crystal meth and was addicted. All of our money was going toward that but when I would ask him about it, he would say that he spent it on something for the business. We started going to couseling and he seemed to really change for a little while. During this time, we got behind on our house payment because there was never enough money in the account to pay it since he was taking most of it out. We were then told that we had to move out or get our payment caught up. Since we found that out, he would not leave for work until after noon and then complain that he was never off from work by 5. I have tried to get him to do the right thing but I don t know what else to do. When we could not get our payments on our house caught up, we moved into our building. We only have 2 toilets in here and no shower at all. I have to drive to my parents house every day to take a shower and bathe my kids, wash our clothes, etc. He stays up all night and then won t go to work until very late the next day. He is ruining our business and in this type of business, I can t do everything. He won t take any responsibility for anything. I get cussed out at least once a day because he doesn t do his job. I am so outdone with this whole situation. When we moved the stuff out of our house, he didn t even help with 95% of it. He kept telling everyone that I was making him work which is a complete lie. When my cell phone is dead and I ask to use his, he has to mess with it for 5-10 minutes, I guess he s deleting web history and telephone numbers, and then he will let me use it.
He says that he can t stand to be around me because I accuse him of everything. I try and talk to him but he butts in on me and won t listen. When I tell him that it bothers me a lot that he stays up all night and never comes to bed with me, he says that he can do whatever he wants because he is a grown man. I am at my whits end. I have 4 kids and this is my only means of income. I have to do everything for my children while he sits back and watches and doesn t offer to help. He tells me that it is my fault about being kicked out of the house, money problems, kids being loud, his past addiction to meth, etc. He blames me for everything. I have tried everything I know to do to keep this marriage from failing but I can t. I don t say anything to him a lot of times because he is very disrespectful to me if I do or he won t listen at all. His tone is very hateful towards me even if I don t say anything out of the way. I have tried talking to him but when I do he gets very angry and raged and tells me to leave him the **** alone. I don t know what to do. We are living here and I can t afford to leave but I honestly think that I will go insane if I stay here for one more day.
There are typically many, many signs your husband doesn't love you. The problem is almost never that there aren't enough signs -- the problem is almost always wives not wanting to see and accept them. There are certain times of the year when showing signs we love our partner is expected, and societal pressure usually forces us to act -- the biggies typically are Valentine's Day, Christmas, our wedding anniversary and birthday. Yet it's important for all of us that we don't put too much meaning into the 'I love you's' expressed on these days. We all demonstrate and prove we love our partners by what we do every day of the year, not just on special occasions. Here's a list signs your husband doesn't love you that are all true. They come from the right now. These signs don't come just from wives who are needing help seeing and accepting the signs their husband doesn't love them, but also from husbands who are struggling to see and accept the signs that their wives don't really love them as well. 1. Love Cards on Holidays, but Never Anything Else What if your husband didn't get you anything for Christmas, could that be a sign your husband doesn't love you? What if you had to buy and wrap your own Christmas gifts every year, but he took credit for giving you them as if they were gifts coming from him? (read ) But what if the same husband gave you cards expressing his love for you on holidays, and not just one card, but multiple cards each time, would that be prove that he really does love you? 2.
When There Is Love, It Never Lasts What if your wife was telling you yesterday that you're a "piece of sh-t," she "can't stand to be around you," and wants you "out of my life forever. " Then less than 24-hours later she's hugging you, being affectionate towards you, and then has sex with you. Would this mean that what she said the day wasn't true? 3. You're Always the Problem (i. e. You're The Reason He Doesn't Change) What if whenever you tell your husband how unhappy you are in your marriage and what you need him to change to make it better, he always shifts the conversation around to what's wrong with you? What if he always says you're the reason he doesn't love you more? What if you're always the problem and he never is? Could that be a sign your husband doesn't love you? 4. Doesn't Accept (i. e. really Love) You What if your wife is always finding fault with you? What if it seems like in her eyes you can never do anything right? And when you do seem to finally get it 'right,' another thing you don't do right pops up? What if you looked back over your relationship and saw a pattern of her lack of accepting (i. e. really loving) you? 5. What if you ask your husband to change and he never does? What if he doesn't seem to hear you, so you ask again and again, even to the point of nagging? What if you plead, but get no response? What if you get so fed up and angry that you 'rant' at him trying to get him to hear you and act, and yet he still takes no action? Could you be banging your head against the signs your husband doesn't love you? This is not an exhaustive list and is really just a start to the signs your husband doesn't love you. I could list many, many more -- signs such as your relationship always revolves around him, and his needs and wants always come first; he's never willing to compromise to meet some of your needs; he never compliments or praises you -- i. e. never says anything loving ( ). It's easier to see the signs a husband doesn't love his wife in another wife's marriage more than it is in your own. Another important point is that the signs your husband doesn't love you can be the same as the signs your wife doesn't love you. I intentionally intermixed unloving signs from both husbands and wives in the above examples because they're interchangeable. Unloving behavior is unloving behavior, and it doesn't matter which partner it comes from. When we love someone, we care about them, we accept them, we respect them, we make them and their needs a priority, and we express our love for them in big and small ways. When we don't do this, it means the opposite. If you're in a relationship where there's a consistent pattern of the opposite happening, then you need to see and accept the.
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