why is it so hard to find a man
If we get straight to the point and skip the bullshit thatÁs only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one. Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough Á and they certainly donÁt make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy whoÁs going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men donÁt want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal. People have too many options. While itÁs good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, itÁs hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute. Lots of guys are holding out for something Ábetter. Á
ItÁs a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because thatÁs the case, itÁs hard to find a man who wants to commit when theyÁre thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect Á whatever perfect is. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldnÁt wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days, so therefore, theyÁre in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guyÁs friends arenÁt married, he sure as hell wonÁt be the first one to do it. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that theyÁll never be the ÁmanÁ his female partner is. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones?
We canÁt. The Áman-childÁ is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, heÁd have to become responsible, get his shit together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just donÁt want to do that. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward Á if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesnÁt want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since thatÁs the case, theyÁll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because itÁs so accepted. I was recently chatting to a friend of mine about his female friend who is seeking a new man. She told him that it seems that all men out there are not worth the time of day. She said they are all no good, time wasting idiots and that she was ready to give up. á The worst part of the story is that she is now thinking that maybe it is her that has the problem and not all these losers she keeps meeting. My friend and I started to chat about other single female friends and their past boyfriends and dates. We came to the conclusion that all these women always seem to come to the sameá conclusionsá about men. 1. The majority of single guys are a total waste of time I must say I do find it hard toá admitá this, being a guy, but it is true. I know so many guys that are no good lying two faced cheating bastards (hope there is no offence caused to any fellow male readers). These guys are all players, wellá versedá in the art of manipulation. They know the techniques to getting what they want and then just dropping the girl and moving on to the next. These losers never seem to have any ambition or qualities to their lives. Just superficial idiots. The quick buck is what mostly appeals to them. By the way, although I know guys like this, I would never class them as close friends, moreá acquaintances. I find it a lot less frustrating to surround myself with like minded ÁniceÁ friends. á But I understand a majority of the male population arenÁt intelligent, motivated and faithful people.
It was coming to this conclusion that brings me to my next pointÁ 2. Women are maybe so different to guys that they drive them crazy Maybe not crazy in the du-lally sense of the word, but crazy in the way that have confused and baffled all the men that pursue them for many centuries. Girls say things like, ÁYou should have knownÁ, ÁIá shouldnÁtá have to tell you thatÁ or the worst of all ÁThat was then, this is now. Á I am sorry ladies but us men really do have a hard time understanding you. I have heard some women talk about a man who is ideal for them in pretty much every way, but complain about the fact he is only 95% perfect. I regularly hear my female frieds say Áhe is too niceÁ or ÁI feel like I can walk all over himÁ. Once again, all due respect if this does not apply to you but I so often hear about women taking advantage of or ignoring Ámr nice guyÁ instead of appreciating him for all his qualities. Amazingly I have found that so many good guys get cheated on for these idiot no good time wasting guys single women complain about. á (found in our first conclusion). As a result the Ágood guyÁ is transformed into an ÁassholeÁ. In some rare instances there are women who could appreciate the Ágood guyÁ, but they usually arenÁt fortunate enough to ever find one whoÁs straight or lives in a 100 mile radius. This problem can be solved by our last conclusion. 3. The attitudes of women towards single men needs to change. á You need to forget about all the idiots that have come and gone in the past. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off because Iá trulyá believe there is someone out there for everyone. Present the world with a confident self-sufficient woman and the good men will identify you as someone to pursue. Positive thinking doesnÁt hurt either. I am a firm believer in speaking your reality into existence. So with that logic if you constantly repeat the phrase á Áthere is no good man out there for meÁ, you probably wonÁt find any. Start to believe the opposite and just wait and see what happens. You may surpriseá yourself. Even if you donÁt see any results, at least youÁll feel better about the search. And lets face it you we all deserve a good man!
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